Accuser Part II

(Kindly check previous post for Part I)

Just as I earlier pointed out, an accuser is after your destiny! To slow you down, demoralise you and make you feel unworthy. Most times because you have a grace they have fallen short of or a height you are but they cannot attain!

The most unfortunate part will be if you don’t know your purpose or the importance of your calling, you will answer to every name calling!!

It is easier to overcome their ‘ministry‘ when you already are sure of who you are, you will quickly identify jealousy, envy,strife etc

I take a few biblical examples:

Jesus was accused so many times while he was on earth. There are so many examples as to how he was accused. He was not even received in His own clan, when He healed, they complained He was healing on sabbath, when He showed love they said He was sitting with unbelievers.
At a point it was His disciples they had issues with, they were accused of not paying tithe, the other time it was about them not fasting…..
Even on the cross, the bad mouth, bad belle people boku!!!

Job:
Job 2:3-5
The LORD said to Satan, “Have you considered My servant Job? For there is no one like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man fearing God and turning away from evil. And he still holds fast his integrity, although you incited Me against him to ruin him without cause.” Satan answered the LORD and said, “Skin for skin! Yes, all that a man has he will give for his life. “However, put forth Your hand now, and touch his bone and his flesh; he will curse You to Your face.”

Isn’t that just harsh? Smh!

The scenario happened between God and the devil, the devil wanted to slander and demerit Job, thank God that God is God,who knows all, still He had to show the devil he was wrong by testing Job.

Joseph: he was accused by his brothers, later by his boss’ wife.

Esther and Modecai were accused by Hamman due to sheer jealousy.

David: due to the lack of self esteem or is it the presence of low self esteem,insecurity and jealousy of Saul who he served sought to kill him.

It’s always safe not to be involved with slanderes and critics,no need to grant them access because they will definitely invite unnecessary test, storm and battles into your life, you might win at last because the truth of now is always the truth of 20yrs and a child if God can never be disadvantaged, it’s just that it all just does not worth it! It’s always ok to avoid war than to prepare for war!!!

The day you realise any of these people in your circle, no matter how close they seem to be, no matter how old the relationship or friendship, they should seize to have access to you, longevity is not in any way legality.

In recent times I have had to carefully choose who and what I listen to, lest I be dragged into the Web of wailers, both in doing, supporting or in being a victim!!! I guard jealously my heart because from there comes the issues of life.

Psalm 119:69-70
“Though the arrogant have smeared me with lies, I keep your precepts with all my heart. Their hearts are callous and unfeeling, but I delight in your law”

As humans, we need to evaluate our life at intervals to shut out toxic relationships. Who is speaking to and about your life matters, who you give access to your information matters, wisdom is profitable to direct.

Do you have encouragers or slanderes?

Always remember you are not always the problem, they could be the problem.
You just keep the good work,walk circumspectly, abstain from all appearances of evil and you will surely be a victor!!

1 Peter 2:12
Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.

I urge you to terminate quickly every relationship you have with an accuser…..

As for me: I am no longer a slave to fear! I am a child of God!!

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The Accuser [Part 1]

Have you ever been innocent about an incident and you are accused of being guilty?
The allegation is so perfectly curled, it’s beginning to look like you actually committed the offence

Just because the person gets opportunity to a demi semi fraction of information that has no actual connection to the incidence, in which you probably actually played a role, it’s amplified and used as a main subject.

I just described the ministry of an accuser!

As humans we need to be aware of that ministry!! It’s unfortunate that we don’t easily detect until it tears into our self esteem and we then begin to see ourselves as failures and inadequate….we even begin to act out the script that was played to us by accusation….we begin to become that person that we have been accused to be.

It is dangerously dangerous to live and have toxic people around you, they don’t only hinder your progress, they see no good thing in you,they even demerit you in the sight of people that have huge esteem of you,they just wanna pull you down,talk you down,marginalise you,be in competition with you…the list is endless.

Accusers are abusers!!! The effect of abusers is not hidden,they beat you,maybe not always physically but emotionally,they damage you,they perceive you as a victim,You may even begin to reflect abuse by being abusive depending on your self strength, you go into depression and you become hopeless…..

Abusers manipulate you in your area of weakness, they use your greatest needs to enslave you….

An accuser is a critic,unsympathetic and nothing is ever satiable in their sight,there just must be a fault, they seem to know all, they elate themselves higher than any mistake and every other person, they are the only one that can do it right!

An accuser cannot love you,love does not even keep records of wrong not to even think about acting, bringing to remembrance and doing sweet manipulation of tiny bits of your action to form a case!!

As Christians,Satan is mostly termed the accuser of brethren but my direct question is: does he come to dwell in the midst of us as he is spirit? Nope, he sends a critic,a slander and abuser either to the church as a whole or to individuals to truncate their God ordained destiny!

It is therefore very important that every human finds or knows his/her purpose in life.
Knowing and understanding what you were made for allows you to identify and choose your right circle.

Let me stop here…watch out for part II

The remaining part of this month will be awesome for us all….its not yet late for that pleasant surprise….wait for it, it will come to pass!

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Here is what People think about Romance and Money


It’s Love season and it’s worth celebrating.
It is interesting to know that in this generation where everything is fast paced romance seems to still be acknowledged.

Majority of Voters chose that they will rather be in a romance(ful) instead of money(ful) relationship.
View post and comment here:

In the light of this,this will be my take:

We must not fail to first of all remember and put to use the knowledge of the fact that romance is a component of Love.

We have the Eros which is the physical, sensual and sexual attraction kind of love between a male and a female or lovers as it were. This is the category of love when we have the butterfly buzzing,gish gish feeling towards our partner.

The Phillia allows couples to be friends with each other, they have that intimacy in friendship where they can bare their heart and soul and they have found a companion in each other. They share their lives,time, moment and help each other without stress.

While the Agape is the unconditional love that has transcended beyond reasons but to a position of choice. This kind of Love does not need the partner to be physically perfect, lovers only have to make the choice of sticking together and enjoying life as it comes there-in.

Love itself is not based on material things so if that relationship must work, we must take away prioritising meeting our material needs as the essence of a working relationship.

This simply means that choosing money over the seemingly ‘first stage’ of Love will be fowl. We already lost the game before we played it!!

Inasmuch as the importance of money cannot be over emphasised, I am of the school of thought that believes that if two people are in a working relationship, full of butterflies in the tummy and all the available drama that comes with it also solid friendship,where there is synergy, positive energy, selflessness and understanding there is no limit to what they can achieve and that thing called money they will have in excess because there would be sound mind and peace for strategizing and pulling one another up.
Love is an experience worth having .It soothes the soul.
Invest in friendship, feelings actually come and go.
Only the choice that you make stays with you forever,therefore choose to Love and stand by it.

I hope this season brings you love in amazing places!!

AroHacares

Personality of the Month

I remember being in love with ebonylife TV… they were just starting out, I had seen the hype, advert and could not wait for the package to kick off!!

Of cos the station started in 2013 and I was always glued to that channel 165! Its ebony life!!

I also remember that I loved watching this late night show on Love with my lovely natural hair presenter Oreka Godis called Love Lounge. Interesting topics were discussed.

I remember they had controversial topics and they had professional panelists to discuss these topics too

I remember getting attracted to his contribution, I then decided to find him out!!

We all get to a point in our lives when we feel like we need to know more, we yearn for more knowledge about our area of interest and if you are inquisitive like me you will want to ask questions from the professionals!!

I yearned for Jerome’s involvement!

This quest was coupled with all the drama going on….
I just wanted balance
For me he’s got balance….he put perspective, he shinned a light and also straightened my spirituality

He is blunt and sensitive, he is quite wise.
It’s love season, he deals with LOVE things winks

Jerome Yaovi Onipede is the Chief Consultant at Jerome Is Talking LTD.
He is an ASSOCIATE of the TRACOM Group USA and also the first African certified by the TRACOM Group to administer and deliver the Social Styles and Versatility.

Jerome is changing the world by using a refreshing approach in seeing, understanding, and including others in our lives.

He believes that different doesn’t necessarily mean wrong, and learning to include others along with the uniqueness that they bring into our circle, team, family, community, society, organization, etc, can only make us bigger, stronger and well rounded.

Jerome Yaovi Onipede is a Personal Counselor/Relationships Coach and Matchmaker. He believes in Love and Romance and when it comes to living, he knows love has everything to do with it.

He says that Instead of running away from love, let’s rather look at where and how we are getting it wrong, become wise through our mistakes, and learn to love right and live well. We can learn to love God, ourselves, and others.

I just want to live my life, so what’s love got to do with it?

“I come across people everyday who are alive, but not living. Living does not happen because you are alive, but because you love. By ourselves we can enjoy life, but to really appreciate life we must find companionship.

Once you have learned to love, you will have learned to live, and you will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.

The moments you told the truth,when you trusted another without reservation, when you had respect for another irrespective of differences. Those moments you felt closer, and not far away. Those were your living moments, because through love you covered a multitude of sins”

Visit the website below to know more of the services offered at Jerome is talking!

http://www.jeromeistalking.org
@jeromeistalking (Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter)

However it’s love season:
You can spend this season with your spouse at the couples retreat!


Check here for more: https://arohaspace.com/2019/02/05/loving-your-imperfections-a-taste-of-heaven-couples-retreat/

LOVING YOUR IMPERFECTIONS! A Taste of Heaven Couples Retreat.

Do perfect spouses, marriages, families exist? From personal experience,  I will say no, I haven’t been in contact with any under heaven, but I know PERFECT LOVE exist, and when it comes in contact with imperfection,  it has a way of making up for every fault, abuse, mistake, etc through forgiveness that comes from anyone that has allowed himself or herself to become the channel of unconditional love.

Sam Keen says “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” 

This is very true and also very practical, however a lot of Marriages are not working today, because we are looking for a perfect spouse.

Most of the time we are trained to go into marriage with conditional love rather than unconditional, and so it becomes very easy to love our spouse when he or she meets up with our expectations of them, and when they don’t or can’t, it’s just logical to stop loving, and let them know through words or actions how disappointed we are.

This happens because we are also looking for someone who will complete us, rather than compliment us in marriage. We have this deep feeling that we are incomplete as a person, and we are right about that, but to think its another person that will complete us is wrong, because only our Creator can do that, while our spouse can only compliment us.

At this A Taste of Heaven Couples Retreat tagged Loving Your Imperfections, our goal is to help married couples see each other from God’s Perspective, and start seeing the imperfect spouse perfectly.

To chose your Dates, Reservations and more information on this, please follow this link https://jeromeistalking.org/couples-retreat/

We look forward to having you in Cotonou, Benin Republic this February.

CEDARS GRACE FAMILY BANQUET

CEDARS House of Grace is said to stage its banquet and Grand launch holding on Sunday, 3rd February at The Grand Atrium, Lekki Lagos.

The senior pastor Rev. Gbeminiyi Eboda said “It’s a grand launch and the birth of a new church family. We are inviting everyone in transit, in a new season, on a quest for answers to life’s probing questions, and in search of true meaning.”

“we are a God-sensitive and seeker-friendly church in an environment and atmosphere where people’s needs are constantly being met, their minds empowered through the provision of relevant information and sustainable inspiration, their spirits fed, and men and women are stirred up into action with passion towards the fulfilment of their God-ordained destinies”.

CEDARS House of Grace is a church that believes in adding value the lives of people through various means.

This banquet is an avenue to showcase God’s love to people in the community and ultimately make them know that the church’s doors are wide open to receive them in their anytime.

Reflections of AroHa

So I was thinking and then I thought to ask

Which would you prefer?

Relationship that comes with shivers (this sizzling kind of love that makes you feel fly,high and butterflies buzzy and crazy all the time)

or

a relationship that comes with money and nothing else but just available money to spend around the world 😁